Posts Tagged ‘fantasy football’

So I’ve been playing in an established fantasy football league on for the past 6 years, and we are looking for someone to take over one of the teams from an owner that wants out. If you’ve looked at my “Benyamen’s Bears” tab, that is the page for my franchise in the league.  It’s a great group of guys to play with some of which I met in college and others that I’ve just got to know over the years from the league.

It’s a pretty involved 10 team keeper league (you get to keep some players from year to year) that uses offensive and defensive players. The annual draft takes place on July 20 of this year, but we’d like to find the new team owner as soon as possible. If you think you’d be interested, whether you have experience with fantasy football or not, just send me a note and I’ll get you the details. There is a $13/season charge for the league hosting service on, but it’s well worth the price for the entertainment.

crazyman-01.jpgI realize that I’ve always been a little weird, and that I quite often see the world just a little differently, but am I really as hopelessly deluded as some people would lead me to believe?  Am I really as crazy as that Shining guy over there?  I’m set to become a parent here in about five weeks and I’m not worried about it.  It’s not that I’m not excited about it, I am absolutely overjoyed about it, but it doesn’t scare me.  It doesn’t worry me.  I don’t lose sleep about it.  I don’t spend time mulling it over endlessly wondering, “Whatever shall I do?”  I just don’t think it’s the completely life shattering event that so many people think I should think it is.

 Being a parent will absolutely be a big part of my life, but it’s not going to become my life.  The Ben that currently exists will not cease to be.  I will still love watching football on Sunday afternoons.  I will still try to win that elusive second title in my fantasy football league.  I will still enjoy golfing.  I will still love spending time with my wife, family and friends.  I will still play video games.  I will still enjoy the same music and read Douglas Coupland novels.  I will not cease to exist as I am, and neither will Jenn.  We will just have a great addition to our lives that will make them that much better, not bring them to a crashing halt.  Having a child is not the end of my life, it’s just a great addition to it.  I guess I’m just tired of the people who keep telling me to enjoy my life as it is because it will never be like this again.  I can accept that and that’s fine with me, but I refuse to let one new aspect of my life bring the rest of my life to a tragic end.  Am I really that screwed up here?

I remember when I got married, so many friend and well meaning onlookers tried to tell me that my life would never be the same.  I wouldn’t be able to make my own decisions anymore, I wouldn’t be able to watch football all sunday afternoon anymore, I wouldn’t be able to golf anymore, and that basically “I” would cease to be.  Well, four years into I’m proud to say that those misguided people were dead wrong.  I am still who I am and Jenn has no desire to change that, that’s why she married “me”.  She’s still who she is and that’s why I married “her”.  I think we are both better people because of our relationship but neither of us ceased to be because of the others involvement in our life.  We were important additions to eachother’s life but we did not take over eachother’s life.

I guess I see becoming a parent as being very similar.  It is definitely a change in life, but it doesn’t mean that who I am has to cease to be.  I am who I am and I don’t see it changing (other than growing better) anytime soon.  I look forward to being a dad, but I don’t plan on ceasing to be Ben because of it.